Damned if you do, and damned if you don’t

keep quiet image unattributedCoincidentally to this prompt popping back up this morning, I heard some awful news yesterday about a situation that possibly could have been avoided had others not kept silent. They are having to manage their way through a terrible situation, and a life is in ruins as a result.

To blow a whistle, or to ignore what’s going on; to keep your feelings to yourself and not face ridicule, or rejection; to offer an unsolicited opinion, or just go with the flow. To avoid an awkward, or difficult situation. We weigh these options, large and small, on a daily basis. But, no set of circumstances are the same, so there’s rarely a solitary solution.

Many of the responses to this prompt debate whether keeping silent is a virtue, or a vice. You can decide to speak up and the result may be positive, and all involved are grateful you said something. Or, the outcome may be contentious, or disastrous, even if it ultimately proves a good thing you decided not to keep quiet.

How many times has someone said to you, “I wish you had said something!” Or, “You should have kept your mouth shut!” Sometimes, you are damned if you do, and damned if you don’t. The only sure thing, as the saying goes, is that hindsight is 20/20: Things are not always clear, and some solutions are not known until the circumstances are well behind us.


In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “Break the Silence.”

3 thoughts on “Damned if you do, and damned if you don’t

  1. The best thing that I think anyone can do in circumstances like these is to trust your first and strongest instinct. Don’t second guess yourself. Often, we question our reaction, then return to it, then add a thousand hypothetical variations which cause us to flounder back and forth, we no longer “do” or “don’t do”, we choke which makes us feel ineffective, we think about what we wished we had done or not done, but we gave up all choice, when we refused to make one choice.

    So, in the bigger picture, when you reflect over the situation, I believe that whether you’re damned for doing or damned for not doing, the one thing that you’ll be certain of is that, you damned sure did what you thought was best and that is vindication enough.

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